Its been a while!

Well, it has been a while, and for this I apologise, but I can explain! I started this swapping project four years ago with a single jar of fat, in order to connect with people.

I have had an amazing time, and in the process, I Have had the chance to make genuine connections with new people and strengthen bonds with old friends all through swapping and having a laugh.

Now I thought I had everything, the perfect life, I was married and I had two wonderful daughters a roof over my head, a part time job at a University and I was coming to an end of a PhD which would get me a lecturing spot at the University…….but that all came crashing down! I found out that my wife was not as happy as I was, and she was seeing someone else behind my back.

I offered the chance to work things out, but she declined, so I walked away from the family home with a single bag. Luckily for me I have some amazing friends and family that not only picked me up but put me up too.

My head was in turmoil at the end of my marriage, and to make matters worse there was a legal wrangle over the house. Now anyone who knows me knows that I am not materialistic, that money is not my main motivation for doing anything ion life. However, I had to find cold hard cash to fight my corner, and this totally went against everything I believed in. I decided to put the swapping project on hold until I got the serious business of my life on a level, and to be honest I very nearly gave up on swaptothetop altogether.

But roughly two years on I am back! And to be honest I’m more enthusiastic than ever, my ex is just that …and ex, and the relationship with my daughters is the best its ever been, every moment I spend with then is quality time, and they are truly my best friends.

Professionally I went through a series of menial jobs in order to get a decent level of income in (my ex was the main bread winner as I finished off my PhD), so I very nearly quit my studies too! Fast forward to today I am the caretaker of a Welsh learning Centre in North Wales, I am in the final stages of my PhD, and I am back swapping items!

This is NOT a pity post, I am not looking for sympathy in any shape way or form, and to be totally honest I’m the happiest I’ve been for years. You have invested a lot of time and effort following my antics, and I wanted to share everything with you, the highs and the lows, so hopefully you can understand the reasons for the long break, I have been at my lowest and now I’m on my way back to the top….swaptothetop!